She would he the moral woman whom the moral man loses by trying to exhibit character qualities except that because she is so popular, he puts her up on a pedestal.

There is no doubt that the moral man and the popular woman are going to be at least good friends since their common bond is morality. Romance is the problem.

Friendship is the first prerequisite, however. You can always "add romance to friendship much more easily than you can add friendship to a romance."

Don't kid yourself for a moment, however, that the popular girl isn't going to be very selective as to who will take her out. Morality will be her prerequisite, and social attractiveness, the deciding factor.

It is simply the law of life that each woman bargains for the most she can get, with what she thinks she has, moral, immoral, or amoral. She wants the man whom society holds in the highest esteem, and she chooses that man from among the moral men who approach her. After all, you picked her because she was moral and popular.

It takes a kind of calculated spontaneity to win her. The popular but genuine woman is perhaps the most difficult woman to desire and win by understanding certain specific needs and fulfilling them. The reason is that other women are organized around some one basic need that must be fulfilled no matter what else you leave undone. This is not true of the genuine but popular woman. She is not an insecure woman, and she is not won by focusing on one need or cluster of needs. There isn't any one need that towers above the others except the need for love.

If she is won, it will probably be because you are the best well-rounded individual with a moral commitment who is available when she needs someone to love her.

The popular but genuine woman is quite naive, but she is still no fool. If she is consciously aware you are making a manipulative play for her, you are not necessarily finished, but you are in deep water. She doesn't like being used. Since she didn't plot to get where she is, she doesn't trust people who feel they have to.