Men do not charm by being good looking, but by a certain kind of look. That look is an intrinsic part of a man's charm. It is an essential part of a man's personality in the same way that the good use of the English language is a prerequisite to a woman's attractiveness.

A man is not charmed initially by a woman's words, but words within the context of looks are important. If she doesn't have the content to back up her looks, he eventually loses interest.

Men, on the other hand, need to have the "look" as a way of backing up their words.

The look a man must have is the natural counterpart to the woman's look. A man says something with his eyes. It is usually locked in insight, but the basics of it, like a woman's look, can be expressed with words.

A man says, "I am consciously aware of being a man. I have all the charms necessary to satisfy a woman, and I know I can charm any woman I want. I also realize that this will be so only on the condition that I do absolutely everything necessary to treat her needs with respect."

Women are wary of arrogance, but they love confidence. Arrogance says "I can have you even if I don't do things correctly"; confidence says, "I can have you because I'm going to do everything just right."

Women are attracted primarily by words, but the words are occasionally preceded by the look (not looks). Every once in a great while a woman will come across a man she has never seen before who will look into her eyes and seem to possess her soul in some mysterious way.

Most men when they get caught looking at a beautiful woman, turn away as if they hadn't been looking. That's foolish. When you get caught, just keep looking, but smile as if, "Well, I guess we both know how attractive I think you are." She'll smile back, and you'll know that she knows that you know what you're doing.

I Know More Than I'm Telling

Three-quarters of the battle to win a woman is getting her attention long enough so that she will pass judgment on you.  Many a man thinks he has been rejected when in reality he hasn't even been considered.

When a man hasn't considered a woman, she has been rejected; but when a woman hasn't considered a man, he needs to get her attention.

He has to do some dramatic thing to gain her interest. Then he has to do something with the interest thus gained to intrigue her. He must do something to get her thinking about him.

A man must have a look in his eye that says he knows more than he is telling. No matter what he says, it must appear that it is just the beginning of what could be said, even if he has said just about all there is to say.

Faces

There is an aura to success. It isn't the kind of thing that most people can put their finger on. They just sense it in the same way they can tell another person's approximate age, but would be lost if someone pressed them for an explanation. This attraction comes from sight, but more than sight is involved. As the hippies used to say, "I get good vibrations from him."

At least through the eyes, one catches the essence of all the other's (man's or woman's) past experiences culminated in his or her present physical appearance. This is so, because as any physiologist can tell you who has made the muscular system of the body his area of study, the appearance of the face will be transformed by the movement that the muscles make as a consequence of one's predominate emotions.

Over time what is a malleable face becomes grooved in some way by the muscle movements that have predominated in that person's life. For instance, confidence or the lack of it is written into the corners of the mouth. A critical nature is written into the knitted brow. Happiness is written in the lines that trail outward from the corners of the eyes. Those lines are the natural result of smiling. The look" is every thought painting pictures on your face. Your own confidence or lack of it is written on your face.