The point has been made that one key to successfully winning a woman is timing. That is, if you are in the basic price range in the beginning. That price range consists far more of confidence than it does of good looks.

To be confident, you have to have success. You have to be willing to be "shot down" enough times to get the experience necessary to acquire the success in order to gain the confidence to be in the price range when she does need someone.

Let's go back a few links in our chain of logic. You have to be willing to be "shot down" enough times to acquire the success in order to gain the confidence.

What sustains a man, as a string of bad luck sometimes runs, when he isn't doing too well? Every girl he meets has just had or is having a potato-and-steak dinner at the expense of some other man.

Only one of two things can save him, either blind determination or an intellectual understanding that such a possibility as failing has been in the cards from the very beginning.

Let a man understand that, while he is always looking for women, women are not always looking for him. It is not because of him personally, but because women are only occasionally looking for men, of which he is one. Women are not basically openly seeking the opposite sex every time they go out in public. Remember, women are not sexually stimulated by sight like men are. As a consequence they are not aroused merely by a man's presence. Women get aroused slowly over time.

When To Take The Initiative

However, there will come a time in the relationship when her intensity of interest will surpass his initial fascination. His interest (since sight is sex) starts at a high peak, and hers rises slowly over time until it surpasses his own. At that juncture, a critical thing happens. Since whoever likes the other least controls the relationship, which control will then fall into his hands; that is, if he firmly grasps what circumstances have brought him.

He has been fitting into her life; it now becomes her turn to fit into his. She will then continue to do so until the relationship ends in conflict or culminates in marriage.

It is at this crucial juncture that what was once his strength, that is his patience, becomes his weakness if he does not take the relationship over and give it firm direction.

At this point, the shallow man takes the exit, and the disciplined moral man ought to step in to make his play.

You Can Win With Patience

You always have a chance; even if you possess nothing else, if you just do something, anything, to let her know that you have a romantic interest in her and can stay long enough in her actual presence for the sheer osmosis of the situation to draw her in your direction.

Many a marriage resulted, in spite of a woman's initial lack of interest, because of a man's persistence. The relationship ends with their living happily ever after, or at least as happily as anyone else.

A man can start out by telling a woman how attractive she is. That will sustain her interest for more than just a little while. He must try at every opportunity to appeal to her vanity, interspersed with not letting her get her own way in those small matters where she is testing for the strongest will.

The greatest problem will be at the point of differential transition. There, each man has to win with what he is and not merely with what he does. His success, if any, will involve some dramatic action to control the situation. Patience is just that, patience. Women are won with words that lead to action. Patience is the weapon, and action is the pulled trigger.