Men and women have quite different views regarding coldness. To women, it is an indication of affection lost. They think men withdraw from them because they don't want to be in their company or that they don't care about them anymore. In short, they take it personally.

Some even become suspicious. They would think that because of his silence, the man is doing something that violates their vow if they are married or their promise to each other if they area couple.

But before we think the worst of him, let us give him first the benefit of the doubt. First, we have to know that men tend to retreat into a wall of silence when they are faced with a lot of stress or when they have a problem that they need to solve.

Here are two reasons why he is showing indifference to you:

1. He is stressed out. - Women when stressed out would like to talk about it. She wants her listeners to commiserate with her and to give her comfort. Men on the other hand, would rather not talk about it. He prefers to be silent to mull over the events of his day.
So when his partner tries to draw him out, he most often than not, refuses to be drawn. More than that, he cannot give his full attention to his partner.

This, sometimes lead to resentment or worse, a confrontation between the couple.

2. He has a problem. - When a woman is faced with a problem, she gets emotional and hysterical about it. After her outbursts, she would feel better. Not so with men. When men have a problem, they ponder over it. They would divert their attention away from the problem for a while so that when they wake up the following morning they would have thought of a better solution to it.

Remember, physiologically speaking, men are challenged by finding solutions to their problems.

They would not go emotional about it. But they go over it by doing something else that require little effort but more concentration like crossword puzzle and the late news.

Because of this, he couldn't give his partner his full undivided attention, which is something that women expect from their men especially when they are talking about their day in the office, at home or at the university.

But because he couldn't give her all the attention she needs, trouble sets in. She may confront him that often leads to arguments or she may seethe in anger.

These resentments grow over time and when she can't stand it any longer, an outburst will occur with so many hurtful things hurled at each other. .
It is then imperative that we women understand how our partners cope with their stress or problems. By doing this, we will learn to respect their silence and not think the worst of them.

Let us remember that our men's silence is not an indication that he does not care or he's not committed anymore. It might only be because he has something on his mind or he is too exhausted from his work.

By understanding and respecting this mode in their lives, we would have more ways of dealing with it.

So the next time your partner has the cold spell, just don't mind him and do not take it personally. Just make sure that you are there. Given the time, your man might talk to you about his problems or his troubles. Just don't force him to open up or you'll wait for a long time.

But if these two reasons don't fit the coldness thrown at you by your partner, I think that is another story.